Sad day.

My thoughts and prayers are with ALL in Boston today. Another senseless act of terror was committed and it’s heart breaking.  When will we be able to come together as one and be at peace? I fear for my niece, nephews, god child, and the children of my loved ones and friends.  They are growing up in a world full of anger and hate.  Why, why why!?  I fear of what’s to come if things don’t change.

I pray for a world full of love and laughter.

I pray for a world with no judgements.

I pray for a world with no hate.

I pray for a world where you are accepted regardless of color or race.

I pray for a world where we ALL can get along.

I shall not live in fear thinking about these senseless acts of terror nor should anyone else.  Live your life to the fullest.  Be kind to everyone you meet.  Be less judging and more accepting.  Don’t hate. Fill your heart with love. Forgive and forget. Life is too short.

It’s a sad day…

My prayers are with all in Boston.

Happy New Year!

It’s the year 2013 – quite amazing if you ask me.  It’s a new year and a fresh start to do it all over again… Wishing everyone a wonderful year full of love, happiness, health, and prosperity.  May you have new hopes and promises and may all your wishes come true.  Never forget you have the power to choose how your story will begin and end. Don’t be afraid to rock the boat! Be happy, laugh out loud, scream, and eat jelly beans.  It doesn’t matter what you do, just smile and always remember that things happen for the best.

Live life to the fullest.  No regrets, just lessons learned.

Peace & Love xox

In light of recent events…

Who knew that my words would have such an impact? A couple of days ago my life was the vocal focus of some people and I got wind of it. Gossip travels at lightning speed.  After being almost electrocuted I did what I do best… I took my thoughts and wrote them on Facebook and it even inspired the quick rant [Sick and tired…].  Needless to say, it struck a nerve for some.  Feeling guilty? Must be if they are reacting defensively, wouldn’t you agree?

Words are some of the most powerful and important things I know… Language is the tool of love and the weapon of hatred.  It’s the bright red warning flag of danger – and the stone foundation of diplomacy and peace.

I hate when I hear friends say, “I’m an owner of a business and you take more time off than I do.”  Seriously!?

Listen up folks, everyone lives the life they want.  If you are an owner of a successful business and choose not to take time off, then you need to take a step back and re-organize within your structure.  It’s no ones fault that you don’t have time for vacation.  Words of advice:  When you die, your casket will not be filled with the money you were saving for a rainy day.  Enjoy your life NOW.  Have some fun and enjoy the fruits of your labor. During the process, always remember to LIVE AND LET LIVE!

 

Until later…

Have a fabulous weekend!

Peace & Love xox

 

Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

Do you have friends or ppl in your life that no matter what you do, it’s never good enough?  Not too long ago, I was talking to a friend and he gave me shit for not keeping in touch.  Excuse me!?  Wow, I could not believe he was yelling at me for something he never does.  The door swings both ways if I’m not mistaken.  I yelled back at him, “Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.”  I assured him it wasn’t intentional, I was simply away and disconnected.  My inner voice wanted to yell: “You just got a taste of your own medicine, idiot!”   Then it hit me, like a glass of cold water.  I had felt the same way he was feeling… (I’m sorry)

The problem is that we expect too much from people.  We want, what we want, when we want it, and that’s it.  We are selfish creatures if you ask me…  I am guilty of getting upset when I don’t get a reply from a message or returned call.  It happens, it’s just a natural reaction.  Seriously!? How difficult is it to answer the phone or text message? It’s not rocket science.  <— My first thought… HA!   I used to get upset but now I don’t take it personal. I too am guilty of not returning calls or texts at given moments but I always reply back.  It’s one of my pet peeves. #truth. 

I’m only ranting on in regards to communication but in regards to other aspects of life, sometimes it doesn’t matter what you do, it will cause trouble.  – Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.-

Eleanor Roosevelt said it best, “Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you’ll be criticized anyway. You’ll be damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.” 🙂

Peace & Love xoxo

Sometimes I wish I didn’t feel anything….

Have you ever had one of those moments when you wish you didn’t feel anything at all?  I know it’s an awful thought but that’s exactly how I felt last night.  I think I was browsing my FB news feed when all of a sudden I felt sad and empty. Perhaps it was something I read or saw but it affected me.  At that very moment, I wished I didn’t feel anything at all.  So many thoughts flooded my mind… the past, present, and future.

There are moments in life, when the heart is so full of emotion That if by chance it be shaken, or into its depths like a pebble Drops some careless word, it overflows, and its secret, Spilt on the ground like water, can never be gathered together.

Although I wished it, I can’t imagine my life not being able to feel anything. Can you?  People think because I’m a tough cookie and strong-willed that I don’t hurt inside.  When people hurt you one too many times, the walls are built six feet tall and made of cement.

Guess what people, Melissa, does hurt inside. I know too well, the feelings of disappointment.  Feelings of rejection. Feelings of betrayal. Feelings of hurt. Feelings of emptiness. Feelings of crying my eyes out for hours.  I feel every emotion, I just show it differently that’s all.

How would life be if we didn’t feel anything? It would definitely be lifeless.  We would all look like zombies with blank expressions on our faces.  Our emotions define us.  Some people are more expressive and emotional, and others just have walls built but they are still gentle creatures on the inside.

It’s these moments that make you take a step back and look at the whole picture. 

Until later…

Peace & Love xox

Time…

Time, it has a wonderful way of showing you what really matters, right!?

Well… What if you were only given 24 hours each day?  How would you live your life?  Would you make every second count?  Think about it for a minute…

If every thing you did in life required to make a deposit of your time, would you?  What if a cup of coffee cost you 10 mins?  Would you buy it?   What if a bus ride cost you two hours? Would you walk or take the bus?  The questions are endless…

You’re probably wondering why I’m babbling on about Time, I recently saw the movie, IN TIME, and it got me thinking.   What if one day we woke up and had a timer on our forearm with 24 hours?  What would you do?  I don’t know the answer or where to begin to explain but what I know for sure, is that I would make every second count.   I can honestly say, I live my life day by day.  I’m grateful and give thanks every morning when I wake up.  I do believe we are on borrowed time.

Life is too short to hold unto grudges, learn to let go of things.  Live your best possible life.  Tell the ones you love, you love them.  Don’t be afraid to say what you feel.  You might only get one chance, don’t waste it.  Always be yourself.  Be grateful.  Learn to forgive. 

The TIME is now, don’t waste it waiting for the right moment.  Make every second count because you never know when it might be your last.

What are your thoughts?

Peace & Love xox

18 Questions that everyone’s too afraid to ask…

I came across this read posted on Oprah.com.  Leigh Newman comes up with the intimidating but crucial ideas we all need to examine. Take the plunge. It may change your life.  I’m definitely curious!

Read more: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Do-What-You-Love-Leigh-Newman/6#ixzz20SS3sPpp

Let’s take the plunge together… 

1. Who do I yell at in the quiet of my head?  I’m yelling at myself…or the person I wish I can scold. 
2. If I had shingles, who would I call who might make me the tiniest bit better?  I only have a handful of people who I trust and would be able to share something personal. (It doesn’t have to be shingles, change it too whatever fits your life.)
3. What’s the one thing that nobody knows about me? I’m very private.
4. When was the last time I laughed until root beer came out of my nose?  I laugh everyday but it’s been years since I laugh so hard my drink comes out my nose. LOL
5. Do I have one little doable thing that always makes me happy?  Walks on the beach. Sitting under a tree and loosing myself in a good read.
6. Why don’t I do more of the above?  In other words, doing the things you love.  There should not be any excuses.  There is aways time for you…  I need to make more time for me!!
7. Did I take on __________ just to get ___________ to love me?  I believe in doing things for myself and not to please others.  If they like me, great.  If not, too bad. 
8. How often does my body scream, “You’re a crazy lady!”?  I only yell at my body when I’m burning the candle on both ends.  When I don’t rest when I should, eat healthy, or get exercise…etc.
9. Would I trust my partner to choose a nursing home for me?  Yes, I know he would choose the best place for me.
10. When do I make people afraid of me?  I would have to say at work.  I don’t stay quiet and speak my mind.  
11. Will I be able to retire without moving to another country?  If the economy continues to drop — who knows??
12. Am I being my best self in my romantic relationship? Yes
13. If I pretended for six months that I couldn’t buy anything, aside from my car or my house that cost more than $150 could I do it?  Honestly, No!
14. Can I stop being critical for just two weeks?  Easier said than done. 
15. What do I lie about?  I believe honesty is the best policy so I prefer not to lie. 
16. Can I name one thing I’m really, really good at? Shopping..HA!  On a serious note, I’m really good at listening.  
17. Do I make others feel bad if they’re not good at this one thing?  I don’t think I do…
18. Am I meant to be doing something greater? Absolutely, I just have to keep searching…

Now that wasn’t so scary maybe a little boring but definitely not scary. 😉 😉

What are your thoughts? Are you afraid to answer any of these questions….

Until later.

Peace & Love xox

Money…

People argue about it.  People fight about it.  People work hard for it.  People even kill for it.   All for MONEY.  You see, we live in a world where you need money to survive.  It’s sad but true.   Hugs and kisses are free though… 😉

Why is it that some people can’t have a conversation without mentioning money?  I wish I had their money!  It must be nice to have that type of money! These people have so much money, it’s sick!  Really?  What’s so sick about having tons of money?  The way I see it, if you work hard in life you can have anything you want.  Dreams come true when you pursue them.  Take a step back and look at your life.  You are exactly where you have chosen to be.  You have the choice to change your life at any given moment.  There is always a choice.  Remember: Everyone’s circumstances are different therefore their life is different.

I was chatting with a friend this morning and he said that he didn’t care what problems those rich folks had as long as he had the money, he would deal with it.  I was taken back for a moment…  So if these people had heartache and pain he would endure it and it would be easy because he had a large bank roll? #justmythought. I could not believe he would say such a thing.  Yes, money makes everything so much easier but loosing a child, parent or someone you love is more valuable than a piece of paper.  Money can’t prevent death.  Money can’t cure a disease. How many millions, billions, and trillions of dollars have been spent trying to find cures for diseases with no luck.   #foodforthought

My dear friend,  Everyone has problems, the rich and the poor.  Money can’t buy happiness just material things.  Remember not all that shines is golden.   Money does take the mind off the finances and lets you live without the added stress of bills.  If your dream is too own a house in Coco Plum and have a summer home in the Hampton’s, I pray your dreams come true.  I wish you every bit of success.  While in the process of pursuing your dreams, don’t lose site of what really matters.  Play the lotto, you might just be the next millionaire.  I want you too have everything your heart desires and more.  Love you, Your friend.

The trick is to stop thinking of it as ‘your’ money. – IRS auditor

I wish I had a magic wand to give everyone I love just enough to live without the added stress.  I will one day be able to help those in need… #mygoal.

Ironic that I’m writing about money staying at the Hard Rock Hotel & Casino – HA!  This is another topic for another day… to be continued.

Peace & Love xoxo

Have I lost my humility?

I’m talking about humility today because I feel like I’ve lost mine for a moment. I was sitting in an older model car (2000) and I felt uncomfortable, sort of out-of-place. A million thoughts flooded my head at the moment then I started to have that internal battle with myself. Who the fuck was I to think I was less of a person for sitting my ass in an older car? I couldn’t believe that I would even think something so absurd. I am ashamed and embarrassed to say it but I needed a reality check. This moment of uncertainty got me thinking, Have I lost my humility? Yes, but …

I only lost it for about 5 seconds before I punched my inner arrogance in the face. I was born and raised in a happy humble home where I had everything I needed. Now as an adult I live a pretty good life, drive a nice car, but I should never forget my humble beginnings.

I called my mother and discussed my thoughts with her and she said, “My dear Melissa, that’s just a part of life. It’s easy to get accustomed to having the best things in life but you shouldn’t beat yourself up about your thoughts. I have heard many people say the same thing in different circumstances and with the economy these days, more and more people are feeling it.” Thank you, Mom.

Thinking about it..

I know many people who have had to downsize every aspect of their life and it wasn’t an easy transition, they too had moments of uncertainty, lost their humility but quickly regained it because at the end of the day, material things are just that…material things.

Do you wish to rise? Begin by descending. You plan a tower that will pierce the clouds? Lay first the foundation of humility.

What are your thoughts?

Peace and Love xoxo

Flashback Friday

It’s Friday so why not have a little fun.  If you know me, you know that I love love love taking pictures.  I take pics of everything even pictures of pictures. I now have 2,949 pictures on my iPhone.  I will travel back in time {as far as the pics will let me) and choose one picture every Friday and see if I can remember what was going on that day, if not, I will invent something fun. HA! Enjoy! Happy Flashback Friday!

I remember this trip.  It was out of this world! Greetings from the future. 😉 😉 In October 2009, the hubs and I took a trip to Walt Disney World to celebrate his 37th birthday. It was definitely a fun weekend. He wore his birthday badge with honor. 😉

Peace and Love xxo