It’s only my opinion…

Have you ever been shopping minding your own business and out of nowhere a random person approaches you and ask your opinion?  Do you lie? Are you honest?

Well, today was that day — while I was browsing the shoe section a woman taps me on the shoulder and ask if I had a few minutes to help her.  “Sure”, I said – she had two pairs of shoes in her hands.  One was a wedge with a strange flower pattern on the heel in mustard and the other pair was a wooden heel sandal in brown that ties at the ankle.  I immediately told her the wooden sandals were nicer but then she said “Really, you don’t like these wedges? (holding them up to my face) I’ve been looking for this color a while.”  I gave her a blank stare and told her “No, I don’t like them but if she really liked them to buy them because spring was around the corner.” I guess I wasn’t clear enough or perhaps she was trying to change my mind because then she modeled them for me.  My answer was still a definite NO.  Maybe I should have said yes but then it wouldn’t be fair to her – those wedges were horrendous.  I didn’t feel bad, it’s only my opinion. 🙂

A little while later, I was looking at some jeans when another woman ask for my opinion. (I’m feeling like a Fashionista) She holds up a size 8 and a size 10 pair of jeans and ask me which one would be better.  (Inside voice:HUH?) This is what she asks, “Should I get a size 10 if I’m trying to lose weight (but look – they are stretchy) so maybe I should get the size 8 because I’m planning of losing 10 lbs – should I get the Calvin Klein or Michael Kors?” WHAT!? Excuse me?  I was completely at a loss of words – after a few more rants she answered her own question.  I was like this woman is nuts — who buys clothes smaller because they are planning on losing weight? That’s absurd.  Needless to say, I quickly left that section shaking my head.  Some people are so strange…LOL

I’m also guilty… HA! 

A couple of weeks ago I was shopping for boots and while I was looking in the mirror modeling (lol)  – a couple with their daughter were passing by and the wife said, “Those are nice.” So I stopped them and asked which ones they thought look better. (I’m not shy)  I was wearing one knee-high suede boot and one all leather boot underneath the knee.  The wife said the knee-high and the husband said the all leather.  Then the wife looks at me and says, “Listen to him.”  I thought that was hilarious – the leather boots were my first choice as well.  When in doubt ask a man… :wink wink:

At the end of the day, there is absolutely nothing wrong with giving or receiving an opinion if asked.  Why not!?  Just be honest….

Do you have any stories?

Peace & Love xoxox

Narcissist or ungrateful?

I can’t stand people who are always talking bad about others and then use manipulation to get what they want out of them.  Perhaps,  the person I’m talking about is a narcissist.  It’s only about them and their needs — what a sad and pathetic person – so blessed to have it all and still isn’t grateful.  I think this person is non deserving of anything and deserves everything and I mean everything to be taken away from them. Maybe then they will learn to appreciate and love what they have.

The worst part is the people who are being manipulated are the same ones enabling the behavior.  I just don’t get it.  They think they are helping but are only making things worse.  I know they have their reasons for putting up with the bullshit but at the same time, they need to open their eyes. :sigh:  It simply breaks my heart to know that the ones I love are being hurt and I can’t do anything about it.

On a different note…“We often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude.”

How often do you stop to appreciate and give thanks for everything you have in life?  Think about it for a minute.  When was the last time?

However, remember no matter how bad your situation may seem, there are thousands of things to be grateful for in life.  Give thanks, be grateful!

Thank you, God!  I am truly blessed!

Peace & Love xox

 

Can Love Conquer All?

I still want to believe that with love everything is possible but is it realistic thinking? I’ve heard too many sad love stories lately and it just got me thinking.  Is everything bearable with love?  I use the word bearable because it seems like these days it’s getting harder for people to stay together.  What about love, doesn’t Love conquer it all?  When it comes to matters of the heart, I guess anything is possible.

Perhaps I’m a hopeless romantic.  I’m 36 years old (believe it), my parents are still married, and I’ve been with my husband almost 19 years so when I hear people’s stories about their failed marriages/relationships, it saddens me.  Every relationship, every marriage, is different but I do believe when you truly love your partner you can learn to look past the flaws, imperfections, and perhaps some mistakes. Right!?  You have to look at yourself in the mirror and ask, “Are you perfect?” Sorry to burst your bubble, but no one is…  Plain and simple.

I believe to have a strong relationship you must allow each other to grow as individuals because sacrificing all your individual needs doesn’t strengthen a relationship. Allow your partner time for themselves… (don’t live in fear) The same way people change, love changes — everything changes.  “Like running water, changing love finds its way past obstacles.  Freezing it in place makes it fragile, rigid, and all too likely to shatter.” (read that statement again…)

Another thing, don’t use manipulation to control your partners feelings and actions.  Learn the skill of communication — speak the truth and nothing but the truth.  You don’t need to be afraid to communicate your real feelings, needs, and desires.  Be yourself and even if you don’t get the reaction you want, then so be it.  If you have to force it then it’s not real love.  Do you really want someone who hangs on your every word and only does what you want? Seriously?  It’s a lonely and miserable road ahead if you answered yes to that question.  Think about it…

At the end of the day, I’ve learned that it’s up too you and only you to decide whether your love is strong enough to withstand any obstacles.  People change, feelings change — that’s life.  Sometimes the words for better or worse no longer mean anything.

I’ll leave you with this quote:

To keep the fire burning brightly there’s one easy rule:  Keep the two logs together, near enough to keep each other warm and far enough apart – about a finger’s breadth – for breathing room.  Good fire, good marriage, same rule.

Do you think LOVE can conquer all?

Peace and Love xox

Mixed emotions

I was scrolling through my drafts and found a rant that I never published. As I read it, it brought back those mixed emotions.  Here, then, it was I wrote several weeks ago… 😦

Today’s rant is filled with mixed emotions.  Despite the lack of sleep, I actually woke up with a pep in my step.  I was looking forward to a very productive day but then something happened.  It’s quite amazing how the mind works.  One moment you’re fine and the next you’re not.  In an instant my head was flooded with these thoughts.

  • I wish I could rewind time and change a few things.
  • It’s a sad world when you can’t post a picture of you and your spouse having a good time without being judged and criticized.
  • That moment when you realize that you really don’t matter – you are there only for one reason.
  • Those moments of impact that hit you when you least expect it.
  • That moment when you’re not angry anymore just disappointed in the ones you love.
  • Why can’t people mind their own business?
  • Why do people talk shit only to stay in the same situation?
  • I wonder if I were gone, who would truly miss me.

As I sit here and look over what I just wrote, I can’t help but wonder why. I read my thoughts out loud and answered them but there is something missing. I’m not the fill the glass type of woman. I say what I feel when I have too. Has this ever happened to you?

Wowsers, did I actually write that? It’s quite amazing that in an instant you can think of so many things and be completely lost in them.  I’m trying to remember what happened that day that I went from being happy to sad in a matter of seconds.  Perhaps it was a conversation I was having with a good friend.  He never seems to surprise me with the things he does and says.  I’m only assuming, I honestly don’t remember but after reading my words out loud I think I have a pretty good idea.  No need to re-hash old feelings, it is what it is.  Life goes on and you live and learn.

Does this ever happen to you?

Until later..

Peace & Love xox

What I learned…

One year ago today, I decided to start a blog. Why not!? I wanted to get in the habit of writing daily — even if it was just a few words. (shhh… I want to write a book.)  What better method than a quick daily rant on a blog to get me going. Right!? :sigh: These are a few of the things I learned along the way.

1. I learned that easy writing doesn’t come so easily.

During the first few months, I wrote daily and always had something to say but as the months passed and the days turned into weeks I found it more difficult to sit down and write a simple fifty words.  It wasn’t as easy as I thought (I ran out of topics – perhaps?), I started to put this enormous pressure on myself which resulted in severe writers block.  I was discouraged.  I felt angry and disappointed in myself.  It wasn’t until I took a step back, way-back, cleared my mind, that I realized that it was O.K. not to be O.K.  It wasn’t the end of the world.  So now, when I feel inspired I take the time and I rant but if not it’s O.K. – Tomorrow is another day.

2. I learned to accept good and bad criticism. This was very difficult – I do have thick skin but it hurt like hell to hear the negative comments from the ones you love.  Yikes!

3. I learned that people don’t like when you write about their issues.  Sorry, if you struck a nerve I will definitely speak my mind.  I promise that I will be gentle but remember it’s my opinion.  Be happy – you inspired a blog. HA!

4. I learned that a blog is simply a conversation written out.  😉

5. I learned that I have a unique style of writing.

Last but not least…

6. I learned that I still have a lot to learn.  Writing and blogging is a learning process.

I am proud to say that since November 01, 2011 – I have posted 186 blogs. It’s not a years worth but I am proud of myself. {high-five} Will you stay on this journey with me? I still have so much more to say… :wink wink:

Peace & Love xox