If you search, you will find…

If you suspected your spouse or significant other of cheating would you search for evidence or let it play out?  Now, that’s the million dollar question!?  Think about it for a minute – what would you do?  What I know is that if you search for something, you will find it.  Just be prepared.  Why is it that we (humans) have to know it all? #thoughts

“Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you.”

What made you suspicious? Was it questionable behavior, small changes, dishonesty, or simply your gut?  Whatever the reason, you now suspect something but what to do?

You have three choices…

  1. Give them enough rope and see if they will hang themselves.
  2. Confront them with your suspicion but be ready for some backlash and denial.
  3. Search and do your research but don’t forget… If you seek and you will find.

There are not many other choices.  If I were you, I would go with option #1. Give the person enough freedom and the truth will soon come out. It’s just a matter of time. (Always stay ahead of the game.)  It’s better to have solid evidence than face your partner with a mere suspicion. If that were the case, everyone is a suspect. HA!

On that note…

At the end of the day, go with your gut!  Don’t believe what anyone tells you. If you believe in your heart something is going on then search but if you find something be ready for what’s to come.  If you choose to stay or leave its your business and NO ONE should judge or criticize you.

My dear friend, stop asking the questions you already know the answer to. It’s your life, and you choose to live it the way you want with who you want. It’s that simple.

Sometimes it takes more courage to walk away…

Until later…to be continued.

Peace & Love xoxo

Friendships…

It never seems to amaze me that some people don’t know the meaning of FRIENDSHIP.  I’m pretty sure I have already ranted on this subject in my earlier blogs but that’s O.K. I will continue the rant. 😉

Friendship isn’t a big thing it’s a million little things.

True friendship isn’t about being there when it’s convenient, it’s about being there when it’s not.

You have probably heard these statements before and for me they are both true. The doors of friendship swings both ways.  It is not a one way street.  I’m not saying that if you have a best friend you need to talk to them 24/7 – 7 days a week, but at least make the time to catch up during the week.  My best friend and I don’t talk on the phone everyday but we do text often and once a week (if we can) we meet up for girl time gossip/catch up.   We are both our own person and we say what’s on our mind even if we disagree with each other. 

I don’t know about you, but I rather a friend who is her own person and speaks what’s in her heart oppose to a friend that only agrees with me.  If I wanted to talk to myself all I have to do is look in the mirror.   You need a friend who is going to give you a different perspective on things.  When you listen with an open mind and hold no judgements you can take in whatever they say and see it from their point of view even if you disagree.  No need to get upset and storm off like a child. 

My best friend and I have been friends for almost 19 yrs.  Amazing, right!?  I can tell you that we are completely different in many ways but that’s the magic of it.  She knows I’m flawed and I know she’s flawed.  We are not perfect and sometimes we may say things that may hurt but if you have a solid friendship you can be honest and speak up. 

I’ve had other friendships in the past that I thought were meaningful and sincere but years later I found out that those people were false friends.  It hurt at the moment but then everything became crystal clear.  I don’t hate them but I don’t care about them either.  Feelings change, memories don’t.  I will always look back and laugh at the good times. #smiling 

At the end of the day, you know deep inside who your true friends are.  If you have a true friend, cherish them because once you lose them you will never get them back.

Until later..

Peace & Love xox

In light of recent events…

Who knew that my words would have such an impact? A couple of days ago my life was the vocal focus of some people and I got wind of it. Gossip travels at lightning speed.  After being almost electrocuted I did what I do best… I took my thoughts and wrote them on Facebook and it even inspired the quick rant [Sick and tired…].  Needless to say, it struck a nerve for some.  Feeling guilty? Must be if they are reacting defensively, wouldn’t you agree?

Words are some of the most powerful and important things I know… Language is the tool of love and the weapon of hatred.  It’s the bright red warning flag of danger – and the stone foundation of diplomacy and peace.

I hate when I hear friends say, “I’m an owner of a business and you take more time off than I do.”  Seriously!?

Listen up folks, everyone lives the life they want.  If you are an owner of a successful business and choose not to take time off, then you need to take a step back and re-organize within your structure.  It’s no ones fault that you don’t have time for vacation.  Words of advice:  When you die, your casket will not be filled with the money you were saving for a rainy day.  Enjoy your life NOW.  Have some fun and enjoy the fruits of your labor. During the process, always remember to LIVE AND LET LIVE!

 

Until later…

Have a fabulous weekend!

Peace & Love xox

 

Is your house made of Glass?

People who live in glass houses should not cast stones. Over and over I hear the same people complaining, criticizing, and judging others when they have so much to fix in their own glass house.  I can’t help but ask, Why? What do you care what others do or don’t do? (Can you hear the silence?) No surprise there…

Why not take a step back perhaps outside your glass house and take a close look inside… Do you see what I see? If not, take off your shades and open your eyes.  Don’t be afraid my friend.  When you cast stones don’t be surprised if your house shatters first.  Just a thought… 😉 😉

What advice can you give someone who won’t listen?

Peace & Love xox

Sick and tired…

There comes a point when enough is enough.  I’m sick and tired of hearing people talk shit without knowing the facts.  Why do people have to be so envious and jealous?  Why, why, why!?  Why can’t they just be happy for you? I will never understand…these type of people need to get a life!  If you have something to say, SAY IT TO MY FACE!

!&%$@!&@& 

If you know me, you know that I’m always taking pictures of the places I visit and the foods I indulge in… I post daily on Facebook and Instagram.  I am not flaunting my life to make anyone feel bad.  I can do and live the life style I want because I WORK plain and simple.  I don’t need to further explain myself to anyone.  It really bothers me to know that I’ve been the vocal focus of some people’s pillow talk.  I didn’t know I was so popular -HA!  I will not change the way I am for anyone.  I don’t care what you think or assume.  This is MY life and only MY life.  Get over it!

My side of the world may seem greener to you… well … that’s because I water and nourish it.  If you failed to water and nourish your grass don’t hate and be upset with me that your grass is dry and full of weeds. 😉

Enough said…

Peace & Love xox

Reflecting back…

It’s been over four weeks since I post anything. Yikes!!  I guess I needed the break and realized during the process that I was putting too much pressure on myself.  It’s OK not to be OK.  I don’t have to beat myself up if I don’t post daily.  Sometimes you need to take a step back, adjust the setting and see things with new eyes.

Today is a special day for all of us, it’s a day of remembrance and unity.  It’s sad that a tragedy has to occur for a Nation to come together.  11 years ago, I was in my office when I heard the news about the twin towers.  I ran into the conference room where some co workers were already watching the news.  We all stood in silence and horror as we watched the events unfold before our very eyes.  All I could think about was my family and friends who live in NY.  At that moment, all I could do was think the worst.  Minutes seemed like hours trying to call while the lines were busy.  I could not help but breathe a sigh of relief when I finally received news of my loved ones.  Everyone was doing OK.  My deepest and sincerest condolences for those who lost their loved ones during this senseless attack.

A day we will always remember. God bless all those who lost their lives and those they left behind who remember that day with great pain and sorrow. Let’s also take a moment to honor and remember those who have and continue to sacrifice their lives every moment to achieve peace and freedom for all.

Why can’t everyone just get along despite their political and religious views? Perhaps in a perfect world.

September 11, 2001 – I will never forget.

Peace & Love always… xox