It’s only my opinion…

Have you ever been shopping minding your own business and out of nowhere a random person approaches you and ask your opinion?  Do you lie? Are you honest?

Well, today was that day — while I was browsing the shoe section a woman taps me on the shoulder and ask if I had a few minutes to help her.  “Sure”, I said – she had two pairs of shoes in her hands.  One was a wedge with a strange flower pattern on the heel in mustard and the other pair was a wooden heel sandal in brown that ties at the ankle.  I immediately told her the wooden sandals were nicer but then she said “Really, you don’t like these wedges? (holding them up to my face) I’ve been looking for this color a while.”  I gave her a blank stare and told her “No, I don’t like them but if she really liked them to buy them because spring was around the corner.” I guess I wasn’t clear enough or perhaps she was trying to change my mind because then she modeled them for me.  My answer was still a definite NO.  Maybe I should have said yes but then it wouldn’t be fair to her – those wedges were horrendous.  I didn’t feel bad, it’s only my opinion. 🙂

A little while later, I was looking at some jeans when another woman ask for my opinion. (I’m feeling like a Fashionista) She holds up a size 8 and a size 10 pair of jeans and ask me which one would be better.  (Inside voice:HUH?) This is what she asks, “Should I get a size 10 if I’m trying to lose weight (but look – they are stretchy) so maybe I should get the size 8 because I’m planning of losing 10 lbs – should I get the Calvin Klein or Michael Kors?” WHAT!? Excuse me?  I was completely at a loss of words – after a few more rants she answered her own question.  I was like this woman is nuts — who buys clothes smaller because they are planning on losing weight? That’s absurd.  Needless to say, I quickly left that section shaking my head.  Some people are so strange…LOL

I’m also guilty… HA! 

A couple of weeks ago I was shopping for boots and while I was looking in the mirror modeling (lol)  – a couple with their daughter were passing by and the wife said, “Those are nice.” So I stopped them and asked which ones they thought look better. (I’m not shy)  I was wearing one knee-high suede boot and one all leather boot underneath the knee.  The wife said the knee-high and the husband said the all leather.  Then the wife looks at me and says, “Listen to him.”  I thought that was hilarious – the leather boots were my first choice as well.  When in doubt ask a man… :wink wink:

At the end of the day, there is absolutely nothing wrong with giving or receiving an opinion if asked.  Why not!?  Just be honest….

Do you have any stories?

Peace & Love xoxox

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Where to begin…

Where to begin…

Long talks, silly names, dots, tb, sleepless nights, inside jokes, mmhmm.  There is nothing like having a special connection with someone.  The feeling to love and be loved in return can’t be explained.

It started with a whisper.

I turned around and met his eyes.

Days went by and we met again.

Now, years later. We remember.

We reminisce and laugh.

These are our stolen moments.

Too us and many more years….

Peace & Love xox

Friendships…

It never seems to amaze me that some people don’t know the meaning of FRIENDSHIP.  I’m pretty sure I have already ranted on this subject in my earlier blogs but that’s O.K. I will continue the rant. 😉

Friendship isn’t a big thing it’s a million little things.

True friendship isn’t about being there when it’s convenient, it’s about being there when it’s not.

You have probably heard these statements before and for me they are both true. The doors of friendship swings both ways.  It is not a one way street.  I’m not saying that if you have a best friend you need to talk to them 24/7 – 7 days a week, but at least make the time to catch up during the week.  My best friend and I don’t talk on the phone everyday but we do text often and once a week (if we can) we meet up for girl time gossip/catch up.   We are both our own person and we say what’s on our mind even if we disagree with each other. 

I don’t know about you, but I rather a friend who is her own person and speaks what’s in her heart oppose to a friend that only agrees with me.  If I wanted to talk to myself all I have to do is look in the mirror.   You need a friend who is going to give you a different perspective on things.  When you listen with an open mind and hold no judgements you can take in whatever they say and see it from their point of view even if you disagree.  No need to get upset and storm off like a child. 

My best friend and I have been friends for almost 19 yrs.  Amazing, right!?  I can tell you that we are completely different in many ways but that’s the magic of it.  She knows I’m flawed and I know she’s flawed.  We are not perfect and sometimes we may say things that may hurt but if you have a solid friendship you can be honest and speak up. 

I’ve had other friendships in the past that I thought were meaningful and sincere but years later I found out that those people were false friends.  It hurt at the moment but then everything became crystal clear.  I don’t hate them but I don’t care about them either.  Feelings change, memories don’t.  I will always look back and laugh at the good times. #smiling 

At the end of the day, you know deep inside who your true friends are.  If you have a true friend, cherish them because once you lose them you will never get them back.

Until later..

Peace & Love xox

Sick and tired…

There comes a point when enough is enough.  I’m sick and tired of hearing people talk shit without knowing the facts.  Why do people have to be so envious and jealous?  Why, why, why!?  Why can’t they just be happy for you? I will never understand…these type of people need to get a life!  If you have something to say, SAY IT TO MY FACE!

!&%$@!&@& 

If you know me, you know that I’m always taking pictures of the places I visit and the foods I indulge in… I post daily on Facebook and Instagram.  I am not flaunting my life to make anyone feel bad.  I can do and live the life style I want because I WORK plain and simple.  I don’t need to further explain myself to anyone.  It really bothers me to know that I’ve been the vocal focus of some people’s pillow talk.  I didn’t know I was so popular -HA!  I will not change the way I am for anyone.  I don’t care what you think or assume.  This is MY life and only MY life.  Get over it!

My side of the world may seem greener to you… well … that’s because I water and nourish it.  If you failed to water and nourish your grass don’t hate and be upset with me that your grass is dry and full of weeds. 😉

Enough said…

Peace & Love xox

Sometimes I wish I didn’t feel anything….

Have you ever had one of those moments when you wish you didn’t feel anything at all?  I know it’s an awful thought but that’s exactly how I felt last night.  I think I was browsing my FB news feed when all of a sudden I felt sad and empty. Perhaps it was something I read or saw but it affected me.  At that very moment, I wished I didn’t feel anything at all.  So many thoughts flooded my mind… the past, present, and future.

There are moments in life, when the heart is so full of emotion That if by chance it be shaken, or into its depths like a pebble Drops some careless word, it overflows, and its secret, Spilt on the ground like water, can never be gathered together.

Although I wished it, I can’t imagine my life not being able to feel anything. Can you?  People think because I’m a tough cookie and strong-willed that I don’t hurt inside.  When people hurt you one too many times, the walls are built six feet tall and made of cement.

Guess what people, Melissa, does hurt inside. I know too well, the feelings of disappointment.  Feelings of rejection. Feelings of betrayal. Feelings of hurt. Feelings of emptiness. Feelings of crying my eyes out for hours.  I feel every emotion, I just show it differently that’s all.

How would life be if we didn’t feel anything? It would definitely be lifeless.  We would all look like zombies with blank expressions on our faces.  Our emotions define us.  Some people are more expressive and emotional, and others just have walls built but they are still gentle creatures on the inside.

It’s these moments that make you take a step back and look at the whole picture. 

Until later…

Peace & Love xox

Time…

Time, it has a wonderful way of showing you what really matters, right!?

Well… What if you were only given 24 hours each day?  How would you live your life?  Would you make every second count?  Think about it for a minute…

If every thing you did in life required to make a deposit of your time, would you?  What if a cup of coffee cost you 10 mins?  Would you buy it?   What if a bus ride cost you two hours? Would you walk or take the bus?  The questions are endless…

You’re probably wondering why I’m babbling on about Time, I recently saw the movie, IN TIME, and it got me thinking.   What if one day we woke up and had a timer on our forearm with 24 hours?  What would you do?  I don’t know the answer or where to begin to explain but what I know for sure, is that I would make every second count.   I can honestly say, I live my life day by day.  I’m grateful and give thanks every morning when I wake up.  I do believe we are on borrowed time.

Life is too short to hold unto grudges, learn to let go of things.  Live your best possible life.  Tell the ones you love, you love them.  Don’t be afraid to say what you feel.  You might only get one chance, don’t waste it.  Always be yourself.  Be grateful.  Learn to forgive. 

The TIME is now, don’t waste it waiting for the right moment.  Make every second count because you never know when it might be your last.

What are your thoughts?

Peace & Love xox

Just a quick rant…

Disappointed, angry, and hurt are just a few words that describe what I’m feeling at this moment.  I’m disappointed in the one person that means the world to me. I’m angry at myself for allowing him to make me feel like this.  I’m hurt because of his actions.  #screaming.

Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on.

It doesn’t matter how much you think you know a person, they will always disappoint you.  It’s sad but true.  Why is that?  I suppose it’s just human nature.  We are not perfect and shouldn’t expect it either.  Sometimes, it is, what it is…

I’m fine, no need to worry it’s just a quick rant.  I feel better now, sometimes it helps just to write out your feelings.  {I erased most of it..I chose to let it go.} 🙂

Until later..

Peace & Love xox

Feelings of disgust…

It’s a sad day when I feel completely disgusted with myself.  You see, I haven’t been feeling good lately.  I’m tired and sluggish in complete blah mode internally.  At first, I thought it was lack of vitamins — I started taking a multi vitamin but continued to feel the same way.  Then it hit me like a tons of bricks.  I stepped on a scale for the first time in weeks and I cried (literally).  I could not believe that I had left myself go.  I had surpassed my limit and this was the reason I was feeling tired and sluggish.   Those late night dinners, desserts and cocktails have finally caught up too me.  #nothappy

Dare to soar – how successful you are is determined by your attitude.

I am disappointed and disgusted in myself which is not a good combo of emotions to have.  Two years ago I lost a significant amount of weight (for me) and I vowed that I was never going to gain it back.  I haven’t gained all the weight back, thank goodness but just enough to make me sick to my stomach.  There is no one to blame except for myself.  You want to know what the saddest part is, I never saw myself with thin eyes when I was at my thinnest, I always saw myself large. (Big Girl mentality.)  For those who know me, you might think I’m insane but that’s how I feel.

Getting back on track and back to my old routine will be difficult but not impossible.  I will strive for progress, not perfection! I’m setting new goals for myself.  Keyword:ME

Failure is only a fact when you give up. Everyone gets knocked down, the question is: Will you get back up?

Didn’t mean to bore you with my thoughts but I needed to vent and what better way than to write.  This is my reminder!

Despite it all, I love myself the way I am. #truth.

Note to self: Keep Calm, these feelings too shall pass. 😉

Peace & Love xox

What’s on your mind?

Have you ever asked someone, “What’s on your mind?” and their immediate reply was “Nothing.”  What did you think?  How could they not be thinking about anything if they seem lost in thought, right?  What could be going on in their head?  Hello, wake up in there.  What’s on your mind?  Talk to me…

Do people really want to know what’s on your mind?  Think about it for a minute.  59, 58, 57, 56… are you still thinking?  Well don’t think about it anymore, your answer is probably, No.  You will never fully disclose everything that’s on your mind.  I know it, you know it, but maybe they will never know it. HA!

Imagine these two scenarios:

You ask, “What’s on your mind?”

A person having a good day might say, “I’m thinking about how great my life is, the stars align every night and all is well.”

You: That’s great!

A person having a bad day might say, “Do you really want to know what’s on my mind? Well, since the moment I woke up my day started bad, I stepped on dog poop, slipped on pee, hurt my knee, bite my tongue, had a flat, was late to work, caught my finger on the door, spilled my coffee, missed my deadline, forgot my lunch, misplaced my keys, my husband is a jerk, couldn’t find the car, broke my phone, forgot to call aunt Marie for her birthday, and forgot to pick up the dry cleaners.”  FML !@#!&

You: Oh wow, sorry! Mental note: Never ask this person again…

Never ask a person what’s on their mind unless you sincerely want to know but be ready if you open a flood gate of thoughts….

“Things aren’t the way they are, they’re the way you are” 😉

Peace & Love xoxo