Embracing the new me…

Nothing that takes work comes easy especially when it comes to weight loss. It’s been eight weeks since I gave birth and I’ve been trying to lose the extra 25 lbs I gained.  It’s frustrating not seeing the weight come off and quickly as I had hoped but I am staying positive.  In the meantime, I am embracing the new me, embracing my new curves.  I was feeling down and completely disgusted with myself until I talked myself out of it.  I was being ridiculous, the body changes with a pregnancy and I have to accept it. I shouldn’t be complaining considering that I had a great pregnancy and my total weight gain wasn’t as bad as some of my friends that averaged a weight gain of 60-80 lbs everyone is different.  I only gained 40 lbs and now only 25 lbs from my postpartum weight.  I will continue to eat clean and exercise until I see the results I want.  Besides, it did take nine months. 😉

I’m not going to lie, it’s also been very depressing not having anything to wear.  Yes, I’ve said it, “I have nothing to wear!”  I sound like a typical woman standing in front of a closet lined with clothes from one end to the other.  The problem is that I don’t have a closet full of multiple sizes, I don’t believe in that anymore.  At one point in my life, I use to have several sizes considering my yoyo weight loss/gain and I never worried because I always had something to wear but one day I changed all that and I cleaned house.  I didn’t want to fall back into that bad habit.  Once I lost the weight, I wanted to keep it off and I did. Well until now, that I have a little extra. ::wink::

Wearing clothes that fit right makes all the difference so I went out and bought a few outfits in the meantime considering my mood.  Needless to say, my shopping day was depressing but much-needed.  Despite the larger size, I feel great.  I’m embracing my new curves and embracing the new woman I see standing in the mirror.  It’s been such a wonderful experience so far and every time I look into my beautiful baby boys eyes I fall in love all over again.  At the end of the day, it’s just excess weight because I hold the most important gift in my arms everyday and for that, I am truly blessed and grateful.

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Note to self: Beauty is not defined by SIZE.

Until next time…Ciao

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Insecure men…blah

When your husband says jump, do you say how high?  There is nothing wrong with compromising every once in a while {once in a blue moon} but letting your husband dictate what you can or can not do with your hair, make-up, nails, and clothing is definitely out of the question.  Men like this are simply insecure and that’s it.

ABSOLUTELY NOT! !!@%!

I was at the nail spa getting a mani when my nail tech starts telling me about how she use to dress up all the time but now she doesn’t because her fiancé gets mad and she doesn’t want him to think anything.  I was like “Excuse me?”  Think what, that you’re going to work?  If you’re looking like a cheap whore then I would understand his concern.  I was completely appalled.  Are you serious?  I wanted to reach over and smack her.  She continued to tell me that the other ladies there also have the same issue with their men.  They can’t wear certain clothes to work if they haven’t worn it with them first. Really?  What would be the purpose?  Talk about insecurities.  A man should know what he marries… Who knows!?

These are things that really upset me.  I hate it when I hear women say, “I wear my hair short because he likes it.  I can only where french nails because he likes it.  I have to dye my hair red because he likes it. I can’t wear heels because he doesn’t like it.”  These women need a fucking reality check.  What about what you like? If you like it, then you rock it but always have your own voice.  I’m not saying that you can’t ask him what he thinks of your outfit but really, will you go change because he tells you too? Think about it!?

It’s ridiculous!

I don’t care what my husband says when I walk out the house.  I love to dress up, I’m a girly girl.  He can bitch and moan and say what he pleases but he fell in love with me just the way I am.  Who says that once you’re married you have to compromise ALL of yourself.  Not me!!

I could continue to rant on but you get the idea.  What are your thoughts?

Topic to be continued…

Peace and Love xoxo