I still want to believe that with love everything is possible but is it realistic thinking? I’ve heard too many sad love stories lately and it just got me thinking. Is everything bearable with love? I use the word bearable because it seems like these days it’s getting harder for people to stay together. What about love, doesn’t Love conquer it all? When it comes to matters of the heart, I guess anything is possible.
Perhaps I’m a hopeless romantic. I’m 36 years old (believe it), my parents are still married, and I’ve been with my husband almost 19 years so when I hear people’s stories about their failed marriages/relationships, it saddens me. Every relationship, every marriage, is different but I do believe when you truly love your partner you can learn to look past the flaws, imperfections, and perhaps some mistakes. Right!? You have to look at yourself in the mirror and ask, “Are you perfect?” Sorry to burst your bubble, but no one is… Plain and simple.
I believe to have a strong relationship you must allow each other to grow as individuals because sacrificing all your individual needs doesn’t strengthen a relationship. Allow your partner time for themselves… (don’t live in fear) The same way people change, love changes — everything changes. “Like running water, changing love finds its way past obstacles. Freezing it in place makes it fragile, rigid, and all too likely to shatter.” (read that statement again…)
Another thing, don’t use manipulation to control your partners feelings and actions. Learn the skill of communication — speak the truth and nothing but the truth. You don’t need to be afraid to communicate your real feelings, needs, and desires. Be yourself and even if you don’t get the reaction you want, then so be it. If you have to force it then it’s not real love. Do you really want someone who hangs on your every word and only does what you want? Seriously? It’s a lonely and miserable road ahead if you answered yes to that question. Think about it…
At the end of the day, I’ve learned that it’s up too you and only you to decide whether your love is strong enough to withstand any obstacles. People change, feelings change — that’s life. Sometimes the words for better or worse no longer mean anything.
I’ll leave you with this quote:
To keep the fire burning brightly there’s one easy rule: Keep the two logs together, near enough to keep each other warm and far enough apart – about a finger’s breadth – for breathing room. Good fire, good marriage, same rule.
Do you think LOVE can conquer all?
Peace and Love xox