It’s how you say it…

“It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.” I’m sure you’ve heard that old saying.  It’s the truth, sometimes the content is fine, but it’s the presentation that is lacking.  It’s all about the delivery.  Do you choose your words carefully?  How is your tone and attitude? 

“Words are some of the most powerful and important things I know… Language is the tool of love and the weapon of hatred.  It’s the bright and warning flag of danger – and the stone foundation of diplomacy and peace.” 

It’s very easy to have a quick response but sometimes you need to absorb the information and then reply. {Take a few minutes.} Listening is Key!  Always think before you speak, you never know when your words will leave a scar. #ouch 😉

A word can’t be recovered once it’s been said. YOU BITCH! oops did I say that out loud –  Sometimes biting your tongue helps. HA!

Who want’s to bite their tongue? Not me, but sometimes you just have too.  It’s not worth getting into an argument over something stupid. Focus on the cause and not your ego.

How do you respond when your spouse demands you to do something?  How do you reply when you ask a friend for her honest opinion and it’s brutal?

Imagine the next two scenarios… 

You are relaxing on the couch watching some T.V. when your spouse screams from the kitchen, “You need to throw out the trash now!”   Are you getting up from the couch? I don’t think so.  Maybe if your spouse said, “When you have a moment, can you please throw out the trash.”   Now, you might pause your show and actually go do it.  If it’s demanding and with attitude there is no way you are going to get your spouse to do anything you ask. 

You are shopping for a cocktail dress and bring your best friend along to give you some honest criticism.   You try on the first one out of 10 and then ask “What do you think?”  Your bestie then says: “Girl, you look so fat in that dress!  Not were you expecting right.  YIKES!! What your bestie should say, “I personally don’t like that style of dress for you, what else do you have to try on. Don’t worry, we are going to find the perfect one.”  Trying on clothes in front of those mirrors is horrible enough, so please have some tact when giving your honest criticism.

If you are on the other end of the demanding and brutally honest spouse or friend and you don’t like what he or she said, then you need to tell them.   Don’t brush it off, make sure you address the issue and tell them how you feel.  Communication is KEY!

That’s the problem these days, ppl don’t know how to communicate.  They hold a grudge and fill their glass with nonsense.  Never be afraid to speak up!

Don’t forget…

It’s not what you said, it’s how you said it. – Always be aware of your tone and attitude.

Peace & Love xoxo


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