Where do you draw the line?…

Loyalty vs Blind loyalty / Perception vs Delivery  {My interpretation only in relation to the topic of Friendships}

Loyalty – A feeling or attitude of devoted attachment and affection. Do you have loyalty to some friends or all of them?  ‘if all my friends were to jump off a bridge, I wouldn’t follow, I’d be at the  bottom to catch them when they fall”.  I don’t have to do everything my friend does but just be there for support.  Loyalty is a virtue.

Blind loyalty – definitely hard to explain but think about it for a minute.  Do you have any friends that have asked you to follow them in everything they do without questioning it first?  For instance, your friend tells you to jump off the bridge and you do it.  Your friend tells you to dislike another person and you do.   Have you ever been put in this position? Have you given up your personal morals, value or ethics?

Felix Frankfurter, the Supreme Court Justice, perhaps said it best: “Those who begin cohersive elimination of dissent soon find themselves exterminating dissenters. Compulsory unification of opinion achieves only the unanimity of the graveyard.”

There is nothing wrong with being loyal but where do you draw the line between right and wrong?  Don’t be the judge, jury and executioner!

Do you accept the flaws in others or sweat the small stuff?

Recent events during the last six months have inspired these questions.  What ever happen to people being loyal to themselves? Would you really go against your beliefs just because their might be a conflict of interest?  {think about it.}

I have never befriended anyone or ended a friendship without an explanation. { It’s simply not my style.}  I’ve had friends that at one point we were inseparable and these days we only talk several times a year. Sometimes you just grow apart, doesn’t mean that person is bad, just that their story is over.  Some people just come into your life for a quick lesson.  It’s just hard when people you thought cared turned out to be false friends.  These are the friendships that hurt the most when broken but you live and learn and you move on. I’ve learned I can’t expect much from anyone. People will disappoint you.

I have never asked a friend to jump on the ‘dislike’ train just because I’ve had an issue with a mutual friend.  I don’t believe in ‘blind loyalty’.  You make your own choices but before making any decisions know the facts.  It’s your conscious… Some people need a lesson in what constitutes ‘loyalty‘.  Are you willing to lose a good friend over another?

What happened to face-to-face communication these days? We rely so much on technology to make our ‘delivery‘ that sometimes the real meaning is lost and ‘perceived‘ in a different matter. How many times have you read something and have completely misread it? Sometimes words are uttered in anger, but once written you can’t take it back.  It’s right there in black and white.  Never reply when angry, your tone will be reflected in your writing.  I try not to reply to any messages if I am upset but I’m sure I have in the past.  I’m only human.  😉

If you are ever the receiver of a hurtful or nasty message, take a deep breath, read it at least three times, gather your thoughts then reply.  Keep calm and make sure your points are valid.  {easier said than done…} 

Don’t sweat the small insignificant things and always remember that everyone has flaws.  When in doubt, talk it out. 😉

I am happy because I love who I am. I love my flaws. I love my imperfections. They make me, me. And ‘me’ is pretty amazing!

I appreciate and value my true friends.  You know who you are.  Thank you.

Until tomorrow… Peace & Love xoxx


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