Real friends don’t dismiss or ignore their best friends just because they have a new relationship. (Maybe) Instead of meeting twice a week for dinner, you would meet once a week & talk every other day rather than three or four times a day. It would be small changes. Friendship isn’t a big thing, it’s a million little things.
I have been married for almost 18 years and I meet with my best friend once a week for some girl time and gossip. #GIRLTIME
It’s only natural to want to spend all your time with your new man, but don’t forget about the one friend (YOUR CONFIDANT) who has always been there for you during the good and bad times. How difficult is it to pick up the phone? Why ignore the calls? You don’t need to be tied to his umbilical cord in order to prove that you care about him. Don’t you think he needs space? He has his own friends, or did you forget that? Is your man is telling you to cut all ties with your friends? (Are they toxic?) If not – RUN FOR YOUR LIFE! Why wouldn’t he want you to continue to have your best friend by your side? There is no reason why your friendship has to change just because you have a boyfriend.
At the end of the day, you are responsible for your own happiness – a man will not do that for you. When he leaves your heart-broken in pieces, who will you call? What’s more important? The fight or the friend? It gets tired, when a friend does this repeatedly and expects you to immediately come to their rescue upon heartache. Don’t call them only when you have a problem with the new boyfriend when they have not heard from you in months. You think its O.K. to come around now and expect them to be there for you. I think NOT.
“Invest your time and energy in the friends who are capable of calling you when they are in love. These multi-tasking friends are less selfish, draining or flaky and definitely more stable, dependable and loyal.”
If this a familiar pattern, then it’s time to re-evaluate your friendship. Have you tried talking to your best friend? (Maybe) That person who you thought was your best friend could just be a toxic acquaintance. People do change. It’s sad but true.
What about those friends who dismiss and ignore you when they meet another friend? I call them “The flavor of the month friend.” —— I know many of these. LOL 😉 I don’t take it personal because they are not real friends, just people passing by.
“True friendship isn’t about being there when its convenient, it’s about being there when it’s not.”
Until tomorrow… Peace & Love xox